Vindictive Narcissist: What to Look Out For and How to Protect Yourself

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If you have ever been in a relationship with someone who is vindictive narcissistic, then you know that it can be a very toxic and damaging experience. Narcissists are often vindictive and will go to great lengths to get revenge on those who they feel have wronged them.

If you are currently in a relationship with a narcissist, or if you have recently ended one, it is important to understand the signs of a vindictive narcissist so that you can protect yourself from their harmful behavior. In this blog post, we will discuss the signs of a vindictive narcissist as well as ways to protect yourself from their abuse.

Who Is Vindictive Narcissist?

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A vindictive narcissist is a type of narcissist who engages in retaliatory behaviors against people they feel have wronged them. This can include spreading rumors, sabotaging work projects, or even physical violence.

Vindictive narcissists are motivated by a need for revenge and often have an intense sense of entitlement. They can be very dangerous to deal with, as they are not afraid to use any means necessary to get what they want.

Signs of Vindictive Narcissist

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Some of the most common signs include:

  • Feeling like they are always right and everyone else is wrong
  • Having a sense of entitlement and expecting others to cater to their needs
  • Being hypersensitive to any criticism or perceived slight
  • Acting out in retaliation or seeking revenge when they don’t get their way
  • Being overly critical and judgmental of others
  • Having a grandiose sense of self-importance
  • Lacking empathy for others

A vindictive narcissist can be hard to spot, especially if you don’t know what to look for. They can be very manipulative and often come across as charming and friendly. However, some telltale signs can help you identify a vindictive narcissist.

It’s not always easy to break free from a relationship with a vindictive narcissist, but it is possible. With time and patience, you can reclaim your life and start living again.

Causes of Vindictive Narcissists

There is no perfect answer to this question. Some experts believe that it is caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Others believe that it is the result of early childhood trauma or abuse.

There are many different theories about what causes NPD, but there is no definitive answer. Treatment for NPD typically focuses on helping the person manage their symptoms and improve.

Some people are born with a predisposition to developing the disorder, while others may develop it in response to certain life experiences. There are many different types of narcissists, but all share a common trait: an inflated sense of self-importance.

Common Triggers of Vindictive Behaviour

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There are a few common triggers that can set off a vindictive narcissist. These triggers usually involve some kind of perceived threat or slight, whether real or imagined.

For example, if narcissist feels like they’re not being listened to or respected, they may lash out in an attempt to regain control. Other times, the narcissist may feel threatened by someone who they perceive as being better than them in some way.

In either case, the narcissist’s goal is usually to belittle, humiliate, or otherwise harm the person they see as a threat.

If you’re dealing with a vindictive narcissist, it’s important to be aware of these triggers so you can try to avoid them. However, keep in mind that even the most innocuous thing can be a trigger for a narcissist, so it’s always best to be prepared for their reaction.

There are a few common strategies that vindictive narcissists use to try and hurt the people around them. We discuss those in the other blog post. You can read that blog here(Narcissist Breakup Games).

Risk Factors of Vindictive Narcissists

There are several risk factors that may contribute to the development of a vindictive narcissist personality. These include:

  • A history of abuse or trauma
  • Exposure to toxic relationships
  • Lack of empathy or compassion
  • An inflated sense of self-importance
  • A need for control and power over other

How to Cope Vindictiveness in Your Relationship?

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There are several things you can do to protect yourself from a vindictive narcissist:

  1. Set boundaries and enforce them. If the narcissist crosses a boundary, let them know that you won’t tolerate it and why.
  2. Don’t engage with the narcissist’s provocations.
  3. Talk to someone about what you’re going through. It can be really helpful to have an objective third party to talk to who can help you make sense of what’s happening and give you some perspective.
  4. Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, exercise, and healthy foods.
  5. Stay strong! You can do this!
  6. The narcissistic abuser is a special kind of monster. They are vindictive, manipulative, and often downright mean. Dealing with a vindictive narcissist can be incredibly difficult, especially if you
  7. Vocalize your terms or boundaries, and enforce them.
  8. Do not engage with their provocations; it will only make the situation worse.
  9. Talk to someone about what you’re going through, whether that’s a friend, therapist, or support group.
  10. Make sure to take care of yourself emotionally and physically; get enough sleep, exercise, and healthy foods.
  11. Remind yourself that you are strong and can get through this! The narcissist is not worth your time or energy.
  12. If you’re currently in a relationship with a vindictive narcissist, here are some things to keep in mind:
  13. They will never change. Narcissistic abuser is always looking for ways to manipulate and control their victim; they will never stop being vindictive.


In conclusion, if you do find yourself in a relationship with a vindictive narcissist, there are some things you can do to protect yourself. It is important to take steps to protect yourself. Seek professional help if necessary, and keep communication open and honest. Remember, you are not alone.

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