Do you know someone who is always putting others first, but seems to have a never-ending need for validation and admiration? They might be an altruistic narcissist. This type of narcissist is often mistaken for a saint, but it can be just as harmful as other types of narcissists. In this blog post, we will discuss the characteristics of altruistic narcissists, what makes them different from other types of narcissists, and how to deal with them.
What Is An Altruistic Narcissist?
Altruistic narcissists are a type of narcissist that is focused on helping others. They feel good when they can help others and will often go out of their way to do so. While they may seem like they are selfless, they have a hidden motive.
They want to be seen as the “good guy” or the “savior.” By helping others, they feel like they are making themselves look better. It’s important to remember that altruistic narcissists are still narcissists. This means that they ultimately care about themselves more than anyone else.
Sometimes there may be many different ways that an altruistic narcissist will help others. For example, they may donate their time or money to a cause. They may also go out of their way to help people in need.
While it’s admirable to want to help others, you need to be aware of the motive behind it. If someone is constantly helping others but doesn’t seem to care about anything else, then there’s a good chance that they are an altruistic narcissist.
If you think you might be dealing with an altruistic narcissist, it’s important to set boundaries. Remember that you don’t owe them anything and you should only give as much as you’re comfortable with. Don’t let them take advantage of your good nature.
Different Types of Altruistic Narcissists
There are many different types of altruistic narcissists. The most common type is the “giver” type. This person is always giving to others, but they have a hidden agenda. They want to be seen as a good person, and they want others to appreciate them. This type of narcissist is often very difficult to spot because they can be so charming and helpful.
Another type of altruistic narcissist is the “rescuer” type. This person is always coming to the rescue of others, but they are just doing it for attention and appreciation. They want to be seen as a hero, and they want others to depend on them. This type of narcissist can be very difficult to deal with because they are always trying to take control.
Another type of altruistic narcissist is the “martyr” type. This person is always sacrificing themselves for others. They may feel like they are the only ones who can do anything right, and they will often put themselves in harm’s way to help others. This type of narcissist can be very difficult to deal with because they are always trying to take control.
The last type of altruistic narcissist is the “do-gooder” type. This person tries to help everyone, but their intentions are not always pure. They may be trying to make themselves look good, or they may be trying to control others. This type of narcissist can be very difficult to deal with because they are always trying to take control.
How to Identify An Altruistic Narcissist?
Identifying a narcissist is not always easy. They can be very charming and charismatic, which often makes them seem sincere and genuine. However, there are some key things to look for that can help you identify a narcissist.
Narcissists often have a hard time handling criticism or rejection. They may become angry or aggressive when they feel like someone is not appreciating them.
Another thing to look for is how they treat other people. Narcissists often put themselves above others and can be quite manipulative. They may try to take advantage of people or use them to get what they want.
Some of the other signs of a narcissist include:
Sense of entitlement
One of the most common signs of a narcissist is a sense of entitlement. They believe that they are special and deserve preferential treatment.
Need for admiration
Narcissists often need constant reassurance and praise. They may try to fish for compliments or constantly seek attention from others.
Lack of empathy
Another common sign of a narcissist is a lack of empathy. They may not be able to understand or share the feelings of others. This can make them seem insensitive or uncaring.
The grandiose view of themselves
Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-importance and an exaggerated view of their talents and achievements.
The constant need for validation
Narcissists often need constant validation and approval from others. They may try to control the conversation or make it all about them.
These are just some of the signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist. If you think you might be in a relationship with one, it’s important to get help.
Pros and Cons of Being In a Relationship With An Altruistic Narcissist
Sometimes, it can feel like you’re the only one giving in your relationship. You might feel like you’re always the one making sacrifices, while your partner seems to take advantage of your kindness. If this sounds familiar, you might be in a relationship with an altruistic narcissist.
Altruistic narcissists are a type of narcissist who believes they are superior to others and have a deep need for admiration. They also believe that their needs are more important than anyone else’s. As a result, they often take advantage of other people’s generosity and kindness.
If you’re in a relationship with an altruistic narcissist, you might feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. You might also feel like your partner is never really happy, no matter how much you do for them.
There are some pros and cons to being in a relationship with an altruistic narcissist. Here are a few things to consider:
Pro: They’re Generous With Their Time and Money
Altruistic narcissists are often generous with their time and money. They might do favors for you or buy you gifts without expecting anything in return. In some cases, their generosity can be genuine. But even when it is, it’s still being done for their benefit. They want to be seen as generous and kind, so they’ll often go above and beyond to make sure that happens.
Con: They Take Advantage of Your Kindness
Because they believe their needs are more important than yours, altruistic narcissists will often take advantage of your kindness. They might ask for favors or help without ever reciprocating. They might also expect you to always be available when they need you, even if it’s at the expense of your plans or commitments.
Pro: They’re Good at Manipulating People
Altruistic narcissists are experts at manipulation. They know how to push your buttons and get what they want from you. If you’re not careful, they can easily take advantage of you emotionally.
Con: They’re Never Really Satisfied
No matter how much you do for them, altruistic narcissists are never really satisfied. They’re always looking for more and they’ll never hesitate to take advantage of your generosity.
If you’re in a relationship with an altruistic narcissist, it’s important to be aware of their manipulative behavior. You also need to set boundaries and make sure that your own needs are being met.
How To Deal With an Altruistic Narcissist?
Dealing with an altruistic narcissist can be very difficult because they are usually very charming and convincing. They may try to control you by manipulation or guilt-tripping. It is important to be aware of their tactics and set boundaries accordingly.
If you are in a relationship with an altruistic narcissist, it is important, to be honest about your needs and expectations. Don’t let them control you with their false generosity. You deserve that one treats you fairly and with respect.
Some tips may help you deal with an altruistic narcissist:
Acknowledge their good intentions, but don’t be fooled by them.
Acknowledging is one of the most effective ways to disarm a narcissist. It is also important to remember that just because they have good intentions, doesn’t mean they are not capable of being manipulative.
Don’t try to change them, it’s not worth it.
It is important to accept them for who they are and realize that you cannot change them. Trying to change them will only result in frustration and resentment.
Set boundaries and stick to them.
It is important to set boundaries with an altruistic narcissist and to be assertive in enforcing them. This will help you protect yourself from their manipulation and emotional abuse.
Realize that you are not responsible for their happiness.
An altruistic narcissist will often try to make you feel guilty for your unhappiness. It is important to remember that you are not responsible for their happiness, only your own.
Try to have realistic expectations.
Altruistic narcissists often make grandiose promises that they cannot keep. It is important to have realistic expectations and not set yourself up for disappointment.
Dealing with an altruistic narcissist can be difficult, but it is possible. By being aware of their tactics and setting boundaries, you can protect yourself from their manipulation and emotional abuse.
A lot of what we know about narcissism comes from studies of pathological narcissists, or people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, not all narcissists are alike. There’s a whole spectrum of narcissistic behavior, and some people may exhibit some narcissistic traits without being diagnosable with NPD.
One type of narcissist that is often misunderstood is the altruistic narcissist. Altruistic narcissists are sometimes called “covert” or “vulnerable” narcissists because they don’t fit the stereotype of the arrogant, self-aggrandizing narc.
For more information on the different types of narcissism, check out our article.
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