Common Manipulation Tactics And How To Avoid Them?

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What Is Manipulation?

What Is ManipulationManipulation is an act to control or influence someone by means of clever, deceptive, and often underhanded tricks. It is not only used by individuals but also in groups such as corporations where the goal is to convince others that their products are better than what they really are. In order for this to happen, many techniques can be used such as framing strategies, marketing techniques, and even social engineering.

Signs Of Manipulation Tactics

Manipulators often use certain tactics to get what they want from others. By knowing what these signs are, we can become more aware of when someone is trying to take advantage of us. Some common signs that someone is using manipulation tactics on you are:

  • They ask a lot of questions that can be answered with a “yes” or “no.” This technique is often used to get the other person to agree with their perspective.
  • You’ll notice that they try and exploit cognitive dissonance by bringing up conflicting beliefs and getting the other person to agree with one side.
  • They use persuasive language that makes the other person feel like they should take action.
  • They request a small action from the other person so it seems unimportant.

What Are Manipulation Tactics?

Manipulation tactics are not only used by individuals but also in groups such as corporations where the goal is to convince others that their products are better than what they really are. But people use it for their own personal benefits as well. In order for this to happen, many techniques can be used such as framing strategies, marketing techniques, and even social engineering.

Manipulation tactics are methods that are used in order to control or influence someone. There are many different tactics that can be used, and they include but are not limited to framing strategies, marketing techniques, social engineering, and others.

Framing Strategies

Framing StrategiesFraming happens when a person uses language to put others in a particular state of mind so they can influence their thoughts and feelings. For example, a manager may tell an employee that his business idea is “not financially feasible,” when actually the plan seems profitable based on the evidence given. Framing involves using misleading phrasing in order to make someone agree with your point of view.

Marketing Techniques

Marketing is the technique used by companies to sell their products and services through advertisement, public relations, and the media. This technique is mainly done by businesses in order to gain profits. These tactics can be considered manipulation because many advertisements use positive words such as “new” or “improved” to make the product sound good and more appealing to the consumer.

Social Engineering

Social engineering is a type of manipulation that happens in person. It often involves influencing others by pretending to be someone else, either literally or figuratively. By being convincing enough, individuals can take advantage of others by getting them to trust them even if they are strangers.

Common Manipulation Techniques

Common Manipulation Techniques

People use many manipulation tactics to get what they want. By using these techniques, individuals can often influence the way others think and feel by sending certain messages that suggest they should take action. This is why it’s so important to be aware of what we see and hear. Because we do not always know when someone is trying to manipulate us.


The main technique used in manipulation is persuasion. People have been using this method for a long time to gain the trust of others and convince them that what they are offering is the best option. A way that some people try and manipulate others is by asking questions that can be answered “yes” or “no.” A person will then respond to these questions by saying “yes” which might lead the other individual to believe that they are agreeing with their perspective.

Requesting Action

Another way people attempt to manipulate is by asking for a small action so it seems unimportant, and by doing so they trick the other person into taking their side. For example, a mother may ask her child to help straighten up their room without explaining why it’s important. If the child does not take interest in what she is asking, she could say that it would make her really happy if they did this simple thing. This way the child will feel bad if they do not help.

Exploiting Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive dissonance occurs when there is a clash between what an individual believes and their own perception of reality. This happens because we all have different opinions on certain things, and they often conflict with one another. For example, one may think that killing is wrong but then see someone commit murder on television. When this type of dissonance happens, people may try and manipulate others in order to get them to agree with their point of view.

Silent Treatment

Silent Treatment

A person can also use silent treatment to manipulate others. This tactic often happens when one individual wants to get back at someone for not doing what they wanted, and instead of saying “no” or explaining why they cannot do it, this person will ignore them until they give in and do what they want.

Forcing Gatekeeper’s Hand

If an individual truly wants something, they may try to push someone else into making it happen. This tactic often happens when someone is trying to get a job or promotion by asking someone in authority, such as the boss, roommate, or teacher. They will usually ask for small things and then keep pushing the other person until they agree and give what they want.

Fear and Love

Another tactic that is used in manipulation is by creating a sense of fear. If an individual wants something from another person, they could say things like “if you don’t do this, then something bad will happen.” This makes the other person imagine what would happen if they didn’t comply and scare them into doing what is wanted.


Another tactic used by manipulators is to gain the trust of others through empathy. This happens when one person shows that they care about another individual, and then uses it against them by asking for their own favors in return. For example, a mother may tell her daughter that she got tickets for a special event that she wants to go to, but then the mother needs her daughter’s help with plans for the weekend.

Effects Of Manipulation

Effects Of Manipulation

Manipulation can have a number of negative effects on both the individual and the relationships they have with others. When someone is being manipulated, they often do not realize it because they are being deceived by the manipulator. This can lead to a loss of trust and can damage the relationship beyond repair. In some cases, manipulation can even be harmful to the individual’s mental and physical health.

Some of the negative effects of manipulation include:

  • Loss of trust
  • Damaged relationships
  • Mental health issues
  • Physical health issues

Manipulation is ultimately an unfair method for getting what someone wants. Because they are using the trust others have in them to take advantage. It’s important to be aware of the signs that someone might be manipulating you. So you can avoid being deceived in the future.

Why Do People Manipulate Others?

Why Do People Manipulate Others?

When people manipulate others, it is usually not for the benefit of the other person. These could be the possible reasons-

  •  The person is trying to help themselves by gaining some kind of power or advantage.
  •  They are unhappy with something within their life and want to use manipulation as revenge.
  •  They are not happy with how they feel about themselves so they try and change the way others think about them.
  • Poor communication skills: Manipulators do not take the time to listen and understand what others are saying. Instead, they use manipulative tactics to try and get the outcome that is best for them.
  • Nonassertiveness: By avoiding confrontation or simply not speaking up, manipulators often feel as if they cannot communicate their needs in a healthy way. If this happens too often, they will try and get what they want by using manipulative tactics.
  • Narcissism: Manipulators often believe that no matter what the situation is, they are always right. This can lead them to use manipulation in order to get others to think like them or do what they want.
  • Anger: Sometimes manipulators act this way because they are upset about something and they want others to feel the same way.
  • Fear: For some people, manipulation may be a way for them to approach their fears of intimacy or rejection. By using manipulation tactics, they can get what they want before someone gets too close and hurts them.

How Can You Deal With Manipulative People?

Not all people are aware when they are using manipulation tactics. But if you recognize these signs in someone there is a good chance that they know what they are doing.

  • When dealing with manipulative people, it’s important to be firm and stand up for yourself. Often times we allow others to treat us badly just because we are afraid of their reaction. By standing up for yourself you will be able to avoid manipulation and also teach the person a valuable lesson about how it’s not okay to treat someone this way.
  • If you think that the manipulation tactics are severe. Then let them know what they are doing so they can recognize it in the future. Maybe they are unaware that what they are doing is wrong.

How Can You Avoid Manipulation?

How Can You Avoid Manipulation

There are a few ways to avoid manipulation, especially by someone who knows the signs of manipulation tactics.

  • The best thing you can do when dealing with these types of individuals is aware of your surroundings.
  • Stay in tune with when someone is asking for a small action so it seems unimportant.
  • Don’t take part in conversations about conflicting beliefs because they can manipulate you into believing one side over the other.
  • When someone uses persuasive language to get you to agree with their perspective, politely decline and state your reasons why you disagree.
  • Never give in to when someone asks for help because it will make them think they can control you.
  • Be aware of the signs of manipulation. If someone is trying to control you or get you do something that you don’t want to do, they are using manipulation tactics.
  • Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. If you feel like someone is taking advantage of you, speak up!
  • Get some distance from the manipulative person. If you can’t stand up to them or get away from them, try to limit the amount of time you spend around them.
  • Seek professional help if necessary. If you think that you’re struggling with manipulation tactics, don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional.

Can manipulation be positive or negative?

Manipulation can be both positive and negative.

Somehow, it can be helpful to get someone to do something they may not have done otherwise. For example, a mother convincing her child to eat their vegetables is a positive use of manipulation.

On the other hand, manipulation can also be harmful because it can often take advantage of others. For example, if a salesperson is trying to manipulate a customer into buying a product they don’t need. Then this is a negative manipulation tactic.


Marketers have been using manipulation tactics for years to get people to buy their products. While some of these techniques are more subtle than others. But they all share a common goal: getting the customer to make a purchase. In this article, we’ve outlined five of the most commonly used manipulation tactics and discussed how you can avoid them. By understanding these tactics, you’ll be able to better protect yourself from unethical marketing practices. And make more informed decisions about the products you choose to buy.

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